A letter to Sisters!

Dear Sisters,

This is the letter every sister would want to write to their sisters. This is the time when I see you both getting to an era of responsibility with your adulthood! You live in a society which will always ask you to look your best, stand straight, speak less and speak soft. The Society would pretty much know what you are best at then your own-self. They will know which Profession you should choose and which not; what kind of friends and how many of them you should have and whom not and to work or not to.. This is a web of complexities which starts its fabrication right from the time you take birth as a girl. This Society, people around you will try really hard to fit you in a certain mould. But its upto you how you take it.

I know you have equally worked hard for your life, your career, your individuality just as our brothers. I know you too look out to be acknowledged for what you are and what you can do. You may do things a little differently but beautiful in its own way. I am sorry, I always asked you to change and adjust in what you could. I am sorry I never told my brother to change and always asked you to accept/ignore what he said or did. I am sorry I held you responsible for what happened to you and expected to take the responsibility for your brother too.

Today, I really wish he too reads this, for he should now know what it is to be his sister, mother, friend, and wife etc. I urge him to respect what they have done for him and acknowledge their silent efforts which have always been there. I am sure he would have never thought a similar life without you. Let him come and tell you, how beautiful you are, externally and internally too. Let him assure you how he will protect and nurture your own individuality, for he will have to nurture others many in coming time.

Being a sister, I can’t vouch of you being completely independent. Your wellbeing will always be my concern. Independence is not only when you have enough money to cater your needs, but being mentally and emotionally independent is equally important. Always remember, there is a very thin line between being arrogantly rebellious and being affirmative. Happiness is never judged on your bank balance, but is judged by the number of moments you lived and loved. Spread love wherever possible. Be humble enough to absorb the warmth, in you from the surroundings and reflect the same in lives of people around you. But always remember, you are the only one who should be sitting at the driver seat of your life. If you give the power of driving you to someone else, you never know where you end up.

There will definitely be times coming in your life, when you will be considered as a superwoman, someone who has always taken a control of things around her life and done things with perfection. Whenever you feel you are in such situation, remember what I said. It’s ok! You are also a human. It’s ok if you don’t know something and you want to ask. It’s ok! to fail and fall and ask someone to help you cross. It’s ok! To laugh at your own mistakes and be ready to make more. It’s absolutely ok to be you dear.

Always remember you have taken birth on the land where a women is worshiped in a form of Shakti, who is motherly, humble and divine but also is firm enough for what is right. The people around you may tell you to ignore the later part of it because you are not the goddess, but let me tell you, you are no less. There is a reason why God has given the right to give birth only to you. That’s the universal truth no one can defy.

I know there will come a time, when you would want to get some rest from your responsibilities and will fall in love, with someone you always thought you will meet and your life will change completely. Someone who will hold you tighter and give you assurance of keeping you and your individuality safe. Someone who will promise to walk with you, listen to what you have to say no matter what. In that moment, I would never want you to forget your first love – Self Love.  Until and unless you allow yourself to love who you are, you can never expect another person to love you.

There will be instances when you will have to make choices of what you and your love likes, but you should always discuss what makes you happy with him. I am sure he will understand if he would love you, because relationships were never a carrier driven on one wheel. If you both are meant to be together forever, your love will blossom without demanding any major changes in both of you. It becomes very important to communicate at every point for what you think in a relationship. This will only make your relationship stronger and deep understanding will definitely develop. If you sacrifice your dreams and aspirations too much you will always recent on your partner. And that no way is going to make a relationship stronger.

I am sure my last few lines must have triggered a lot of thoughts in your head, but always remember this never means you become selfish. You will have to draw a line for your own self to define yourself being an empathetic partner then an immune one. As read somewhere - the four letters in the word ‘Love’ is made of four pillars ‘Communication, respect, freedom and trust’, even if one weakens, the building may fall. While taking any decisions effecting both of yours life make sure you consider the point of view he will have.

When you get married, you will listen often what you should set as the center of your world – your husband. The whole world will expect you to know your own self with what your husband will be. Your success will be defined by his and then your kinds. Sometimes you might also feel that your importance is only because of them. I would urge you then to not believe any. You were important and are important. Remember when you used to be the center of the world for your parents, till the time you were claimed by your love. You still will be as important to him and his family. You might not be the major contributor to the family financially but will always be one emotionally and socially.

 Always remember, nothing is right or wrong, it’s just the way you look at it. For some the glass may be half empty and for some it may be full. Learn to keep a balance between two. You are beautiful and you know it, so don’t let anyone tell you that you are fat or dark or even skinny. You may put the makeup on because you like it, not to let people decide your character on that. It’s your inner beauty which needs to shine like a diamond you have earned for your own self.

Always remember, whenever you are in doubt, or low in life, my heart will always be open for you without waiting to judge you at any point of time. I may scold you, hurt you when I see you do wrong, but you will always have a home to come back too. Love you!

Love,
Your sister (inspired by Dad)